This article is dedicated to the women of the world. Although i don't think i should restrict this to the men. As men you can actually learn a few do's and don'ts in this article that can maintain a happy relationship.
Ladies have you found yourself in a relationship and you start to hate your partner. Did you find yourself doing everything he wants and everything he needs and nothing for yourself. Does it seem like you have started to resent your mate? He gets up to go fishing to clear his mind or out with his friends to get away from the house. Meanwhile you are sitting at home bored or stressing cause you have absolutely nothing to do. But yet your at home still awaiting his every beckon call. If this is the case i would first say "its probably your fault". Now i don't mean to sound ugly or too blunt but the truth is the truth. You stopped going out and enjoying your time with friends and family. Basically you stop doing the things that make you happy. If you enjoy exercising continue doing so. Notify your spouse or mate that your going to workout and that you want be available for 2 or 3 hours. If you have a cell phone turn it to off or put it on silent or even better leave it in your locker or car. This may sound a bit cruel but if your exercising or hanging out with friends this is your time. Also if your out with your friends it is rude to be on the phone all the time. If he has your attention 24/7 when your around, then he can do without you for a few hours. I have listed a few ideas that you can do to give appreciation to yourself. Which are just a few examples of how to not loose who you are in your relationship. This information goes for women living with partner or living in two separate households.
Here are a few suggestions of to do things/tips:
*Plan a day to go to the library and read instead of reading a book at home.
*If you are a stay at home mom you may be suffering from home events taking up all your time. You may do everything from shop, cook, clean, school pto meetings, homework and taking care of everyone else's problems concerns, tears, knee scraps and finances. This to me is a job in itself that you may never get compensated for. Although, i still believe you should have vto which some companies call unpaid vacation time off. You need to make time to do the things you can't do doing the normal at home mom week. Make plans to go to the movies get a babysitter or let your partner baby sit. Go out to eat with family or friends. If you like time to yourself go out by yourself and enjoy a meal at a local restaurant. Take a few hours for yourself to go out and enjoy yourself. I promise when you get home you will have felt like you have a purpose and have accomplished a lot in that little amount of time.
*Women get your hair done, your nails done. Go see the play that he doesn't want to see by yourself or call up a friend to tag along. After the play go have drinks or coffee at star bucks and talk about the show or girl talk.
Last but not least don't step back into the trap you were in before sitting at home not making time for yourself.
*Create a girls only spa day. Plan ahead and find out the rates. Hire a baby sitter if you need it. If you don't need a babysitter make the plans, save the money and just go. A lot of times your bed and breakfast may provide these services or maybe a new upscale hotel.
Tips
*Communicate with your spouse or mate so there is no miscommunications ahead of time.
*See if you have reward points from a rewards program to use for free hotel stay, gift cards or spa days.
*See if you have points accrued on your rewards credit card for local plays, gift cards or other things you wish to do.
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